Discouraging Violent Play
If you turn on the television any day of the week, you might just see a commercial for what looks like a new war movie. You shudder at how violent it looks and hope that it has an R rating at least. Just as you realise that it’s actually a new video game, your eight-year-old tells you how “cool” it looks.
Know What’s Out There
Not all video games are violent, and not all violent video games make kids into violent people. This is just an example that shows how violence is everywhere. In order to keep your kids from indulging in violent play, you must be aware of it, as, being aware, is half the battle. Also, be aware, that your once innocent toddler, who has grown into a child, has the capability to understand violence a lot more now. You might not be able to keep them from seeing it, but you do have the power to limit their exposure.
Talk It Over
Taking about violent situations, including violent play, is the first step toward discouraging it. The more taboo a subject is, the more desirable it becomes. Studies show that although children are often fascinated by violence, they are also very afraid of it. Ask them questions about why that video game looks so cool, or what they think about the way that a hero died in a favourite book. Also, encourage them to instead use words, or seek adult help when confronted with a violent situation, for example, where two children may be hitting each other.
Keep violence out of your home. Children need to feel safe and grow up without fear of scary adults who argue and fight. Forbid hostile or aggressive arguments in your household. They set poor examples of how to resolve conflict peacefully. Model positive, non-violent behaviour because children are watching you for answers.
Supervision And Love
Supervision is important. Know where your child is going, who they are going with, and what that person is like. Watch how your child gets along with others and teach them the right way to deal with those who are insulting or angry. A secure and loving relationship with your child can go a long way, so be sure to show them plenty of love and support so they feel comfortable coming to you with questions and help.